Like you also know, Campusaga is not unaware of marriage crashes. But it is quite strange for a lady to quit marriage after twenty-four hours she was pronounced a wife in the church, in the presence of parents, siblings, friends, and well-wishers. The lady for sake of anonymity had been referred to as “Lady A”. She quitted her marriage for what our Relationship Therapy Group identified as unexpected reality and poor preparation. According to our Relationship Therapy group, the world over, there are prevailing factors why marriages crash. The factors in descending order are Lack or commitment, Overbearing or Much Argument, infidelity, Teenage Marriage, Undue Expectation, Unequal Relationship, Poor Preparation for Marriage, Domestic violence. Our Relationship Therapy Group also alluded that Lack of courtship is the most dangerous poor preparation factor that could crash marriage almost immediately after it was instituted, and marriages without “due courtship” crash dangerously too.
Her story was pathetic but a good experience for others to learn, especially that fanatic religious faithful. Quite often it is good to get advice from parents, religious leaders, loved ones and friends but it is quite important and wise as well to personally sieve it and chart one’s course in life. Lady A wasn’t a virgin; she had tasted the forbidden fruit. Her husband had told her the marriage was to be approached holistically and hadn’t bothered much about untold stories of every courtship. Like every other lady, the idea was most pleasing to Lady A. It is one of the approaches a man who is truly in love should adopt. That such man may be pretending doesn’t really matter to most ladies at this period. What matters is to satisfy their conscience that they are in a relationship with a good man that would likely be their husband. Our Relationship Therapy Group also discovered that not all courtship before marriage is due.
Amidst tears, Lady A told Campusaga that it was not her total wish to get into a marriage without hearing her ecstatic golden voice of pleasure in the hands of her would be a partner. The wedding night was excused for a busy day and stress. Lady A endured the night because the expected next morning was to be thrilling. When he wanted to go and take his bath alone in the morning, Lady A followed and dragged off his towel for the expected fun packed day. But amazingly, she discovered that his manhood is a very tiny thing, too small, unexpected ugly reality. He couldn’t prove her wrong but frowned at her action. Further, it was clearer to her why her husband was a very good boy during the courtship. She quitted the marriage. The mother-in-law who mediated was of the view that the size of her son’s manhood didn’t matter. The “ifs” Lady A wanted to get the answers from our Relationship Therapy Group may be found from your opinions. Good to Quit or should have stayed?